PLANNING THE PERFECT WEDDING

Planning the perfect wedding is an exciting and fulfilling journey that allows you to create a celebration that reflects your love story, values, and personalities as a couple. While the wedding planning process can be overwhelming at times, with careful organization, creativity, and attention to detail, you can bring your dream wedding to life. Here's a comprehensive guide to planning the perfect wedding:

1. Set Your Priorities and Vision: Before you dive into the details of wedding planning, take some time as a couple to discuss your priorities and vision for your special day. What are the most important elements of your wedding? Are you envisioning a formal affair or a casual celebration? Do you want to focus on tradition, or do you prefer to put a unique twist on your wedding day? Clarifying your vision early on will guide your decisions throughout the planning process.

2. Create a Budget: Establishing a realistic budget is crucial for successful wedding planning. Determine how much you're willing to spend on each aspect of your wedding, from the venue and catering to attire, decor, and entertainment. Be sure to account for any additional expenses, such as taxes, gratuities, and unexpected costs. Keep track of your spending to avoid going over budget, and consider prioritizing your expenditures based on what matters most to you as a couple.

3. Choose a Date and Venue: Once you have a budget in place, it's time to choose a date and venue for your wedding. Consider factors such as the season, weather, and availability when selecting a date that works for you and your guests. When choosing a venue, think about the atmosphere, location, capacity, and amenities that are important to you. Visit potential venues in person to get a sense of their ambiance and envision how your wedding will look and feel in each space.

4. Assemble Your Wedding Team: Building a reliable team of vendors is essential for bringing your wedding vision to life. Research and hire vendors such as caterers, florists, photographers, videographers, musicians, and officiants who align with your style, budget, and preferences. Make sure to read reviews, ask for recommendations, and schedule consultations to discuss your expectations and ensure that you're on the same page.

5. Design Your Wedding Style and Theme: Infuse your wedding with personal touches and cohesive design elements that reflect your style and personalities as a couple. Choose a color palette, theme, or motif that ties everything together, from your invitations and attire to your decor and flowers. Whether you're drawn to classic elegance, rustic charm, modern minimalism, or whimsical romance, let your creativity shine as you design your wedding aesthetic.

6. Plan Your Ceremony and Reception: Work with your officiant to create a meaningful and personalized ceremony that reflects your love and commitment. Choose readings, music, and rituals that resonate with you as a couple and incorporate any cultural or religious traditions that are important to you. For the reception, plan the flow of events, including the timing of speeches, dances, and other special moments. Consider ways to keep your guests entertained and engaged throughout the celebration.

7. Coordinate Logistics and Details: As the wedding day approaches, focus on ironing out the logistical details to ensure that everything runs smoothly. Create a detailed timeline for the day, outlining when and where each event will take place and who will be responsible for each task. Confirm arrangements with your vendors, finalize seating arrangements, and communicate any special instructions to your wedding party and guests.

8. Prepare for the Unexpected: Despite your best efforts, there may still be unexpected challenges or surprises on your wedding day. Stay flexible and be prepared to roll with the punches, knowing that what truly matters is celebrating your love and commitment surrounded by your nearest and dearest. Delegate responsibilities to trusted friends or family members, and designate a point person or coordinator to handle any last-minute issues that may arise.

9. Take Care of Yourself: In the midst of wedding planning, don't forget to take care of yourself and prioritize self-care. Make time for relaxation, exercise, and quality time with your partner to alleviate stress and stay grounded throughout the process. Remember that your wedding day is about celebrating your love and commitment, so focus on enjoying the journey and savoring each moment leading up to the big day.

10. Celebrate Your Love: On your wedding day, take a moment to pause, breathe, and soak in the joy and love surrounding you. Embrace the beauty of the moment as you exchange vows, share your first dance, and celebrate with your loved ones. Cherish the memories you create together and treasure the beginning of your journey as a married couple.

In conclusion, planning the perfect wedding is a labor of love that requires careful thought, organization, and creativity. Enjoy the process, trust your instincts, and savor every moment as you embark on this incredible journey together.

WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A WEDDING OFFICIANT

Choosing a wedding officiant is a significant decision in the wedding planning process. They are not just someone who will oversee the ceremony; they play a pivotal role in setting the tone and atmosphere for the entire event. Whether you're planning a traditional church wedding, a casual outdoor ceremony, or a themed celebration, the officiant you choose should align with your vision and values as a couple. Here are several key factors to consider when selecting a wedding officiant:

1. Legal Authority: The first and foremost consideration is ensuring that your officiant is legally authorized to solemnize your marriage in the location where you plan to wed. Different jurisdictions have specific requirements for who can legally officiate a wedding, ranging from ordained ministers to justices of the peace. Make sure your chosen officiant meets the legal criteria to avoid any complications on your wedding day.

2. Compatibility and Chemistry: Your officiant will be playing a central role in one of the most intimate moments of your life, so it's essential to choose someone with whom you feel comfortable and connected. Schedule a meeting or a video call with potential officiants to get to know them better and assess whether there's a good rapport. Look for someone who listens attentively, understands your vision for the ceremony, and shares your enthusiasm for your special day.

3. Personalized Ceremony: Every couple is unique, and your wedding ceremony should reflect your personalities, beliefs, and love story. A great officiant will work with you to create a personalized ceremony that resonates with both of you and your guests. They should be open to incorporating special rituals, readings, or cultural traditions that are meaningful to you, ensuring that your ceremony feels authentic and memorable.

4. Communication Skills: An effective officiant is not only an eloquent speaker but also a skilled communicator who can engage and connect with your guests. Pay attention to how potential officiants communicate during your initial meetings. Do they speak clearly and confidently? Are they able to convey warmth and sincerity? A great officiant should be able to strike the right balance between professionalism and emotional authenticity, making everyone feel welcome and included in the celebration.

5. Flexibility and Adaptability: Wedding ceremonies don't always go according to plan, and a good officiant should be prepared to roll with the punches and adapt to any unexpected situations that may arise. Whether it's dealing with inclement weather, late arrivals, or last-minute changes to the script, your officiant should remain calm, composed, and flexible throughout the process, ensuring that your ceremony runs smoothly and seamlessly.

6. Experience and Expertise: While it's not necessary for your officiant to have decades of experience, it can be reassuring to choose someone who has officiated weddings before and has a solid understanding of the ceremony process. Ask potential officiants about their background, training, and experience in officiating weddings. They should be knowledgeable about the legal requirements, ceremony logistics, and ceremonial elements, guiding you through the planning process with confidence and expertise.

7. Respect for Your Wishes: Your wedding day is ultimately about you and your partner, and your officiant should respect your wishes and preferences every step of the way. Whether you want a secular ceremony, a religious service, or a blend of both, your officiant should honor your beliefs and values without imposing their own agenda. Make sure to communicate your expectations clearly with potential officiants and choose someone who is supportive and respectful of your vision for your special day.

8. Professionalism and Reliability: Finally, reliability and professionalism are essential qualities to look for in a wedding officiant. They should be punctual, organized, and responsive to your questions and concerns throughout the planning process. Make sure to clarify logistical details such as their availability on your wedding date, their fee structure, and any additional services they may offer, such as rehearsal coordination or assistance with marriage license paperwork.

In conclusion, choosing the right wedding officiant is a crucial decision that can have a significant impact on the success and enjoyment of your wedding ceremony. By considering the above factors, you can find an officiant who not only meets your practical needs but also resonates with your values and vision for your special day. Take the time to research and interview potential officiants, trust your instincts, and ultimately choose someone who feels like the perfect fit for you and your partner.

 

What Being A Metaphysical Minister Means To Me

A few years ago, when I thought it might be fun to be a wedding officiant, I embarked on a search for the perfect way to become accredited.  What I didn’t realize at the time, was that I was also embarking on a spiritual journey that would lead me to metaphysics, albeit, accidentally.

After contacting various organizations, discussing their various training programs, and weighing the pros and cons of each, I decided to go with the course offered by the Canadian International Metaphysical Ministry.  Although it was relatively short, it was jam-packed with insight, self-realization, a new perspective and understanding.  It was almost as if I found me, as corny as that sounds.

After finishing the course, becoming a Metaphysical Minister, and starting on my new spiritual path, I developed a better sense of self.  And tapping into that sense of self, I realized that being a Minister comes with a high degree of self-accountability. But not only that, I am accountable to my followers to help them remember their strengths, to help them know that the universal law of abundance will always provide for us and to remember that, by incorporating all types of spiritual doctrines in our teachings, we recognize oneness; meaning, we recognize that all of the teachings will lead us back to the same place:  self.  And above all, becoming a Metaphysical Minister has taught me that love for self and love for all is the highest purpose.

In a nutshell, as well as having the privilege of being able to perform wedding ceremonies for just about everyone, having the honour of being a celebrant at funerals, and performing baby naming ceremonies, I have found my calling.  Being a Metaphysical Minister energizes me, challenges me, awakens me, soothes me, educates me and more.  Love is all there is.

Why Hire Me?

Welcome to my metaphysical minister services for weddings! As an experienced and passionate metaphysical minister, I am dedicated to creating a meaningful and transformative wedding ceremony that reflects your spiritual beliefs and values. I work with couples of all backgrounds, including those who identify as spiritual but not religious, and those who are interested in exploring different spiritual traditions and practices.

My approach to wedding ceremonies is holistic and intuitive, drawing on a range of spiritual practices and traditions, including meditation, energy healing, chakra work, and more. I will work closely with you and your partner to co-create a ceremony that is authentic, meaningful, and personalized to your unique relationship and journey together.

Whether you are seeking a traditional or non-traditional wedding ceremony, a secular or religious service, or a blend of different spiritual traditions, I am here to support you every step of the way. With my warm and compassionate presence, creative approach, and deep understanding of the transformative power of spiritual practice, I will help you create a wedding ceremony that is not only a celebration of your love and commitment, but also a profound spiritual experience that will stay with you for a lifetime.

If you are ready to co-create a wedding ceremony that is truly meaningful and transformative, please don't hesitate to contact me to learn more about my services and to schedule a consultation.  You can reach me at www.anamcaraministry.ca or 613-612-0852.

 

 

Confessions of a Wedding Officiant

First and foremost, I am a Metaphysical Minister, a role that brings me much peace and joy.  It’s like this role was tailor-made for me.  I will go into that later, but right now, let me give you some insight into being a Wedding Officiant.

To begin with, I love people!  And I love meeting new people.  So, when I am contacted by a couple who is planning on getting married, I can hardly wait to meet them.  And I am often contacted by people who want to get married 2 or 3 years from now.  But I want to meet them right now!  And when I do meet them, I invariably fall in love with them.  It’s not hard to do when the couple is just oozing love from every pore.  It’s bound to spill over.

So, in this meeting, we talk about how they met, what keeps them together, how they plan on making their relationship grow, what they hope for in a ceremony, how many people are going to be at the ceremony, what their plans are for afterwards, all the big stuff.  And we also talk about their life now, their jobs, their pets, their favourite restaurants, favourite TV shows, movies, music, what they like to do in their spare time, and it’s a back-and-forth discussion.  They get to know me as well as I get to know them.  It’s important for me that they know me well.

I do get the occasional couple who will tell me that they don’t care about the ceremony, that they just want something short and legal and want to get it over with as quickly as possible so they can party.  This makes extremely sad.  Your wedding day should revolve around the ceremony, because why get married if your ceremony doesn’t mean anything to you?  I will still do these ceremonies, I will write something meaningful, and I will also take the time to make them feel like the ceremony really is a special occasion.  I will send them off with a copy of it just so they can look back and perhaps realize it was special after all.

Being a wedding officiant is mostly a joyous occasion, but there have been times that have tested my resolve.  On one occasion I was officiating a ceremony when a knife fight broke out in the back seats and a gun was fired.  Everyone ducked for cover as I dialled 911 and waited for the police to arrive.  Luckily, they were close by and managed to contain the people involved and we carried on with the ceremony!  We were a little shaky at first, but as the ceremony progressed, we relaxed.  It ended up being a very lovely ceremony with a delightful couple.

Other times I have been hit on by the father of the bride, thrown up on by the ring dog, kicked by a flower girl, been mistaken for the wedding planner (an easy mistake), called an imposter by an extremely old wedding guest, constantly winked at by the best man, and lastly, forced to show my credentials to a grandparent because “a woman can’t possibly marry people”.  But mostly it’s smooth sailing.

But here are my actual confessions.

1. I would do this for free if I didn’t have to pay taxes and put food on the table. My dad always said I should find a job I would be willing to do for free and I’d have it made. He was right.
2. My husband usually accompanies me on my longer trips. He enjoys the drive and I can rehearse in the car with him. Nothing like having a captive audience.
3. As much as I would like to, I cannot notarize documents. That’s a whole other profession. I can however, serve as a guarantor on passport applications and such. But so can anyone else you like.
4. I write every wedding ceremony from scratch. I believe the ceremonies should be more special than official. I will still make sure all of the right words will be said, but the ceremony itself will be memorable for its meaning to the couple.
5. I’m always a little bit sad once the ceremony is over. I’ve spent a long time getting to know the couple and even their friends and family, and in most cases, this is the end of the road for me. They don’t need me anymore.
6. I will play (and have played) any role you want in your ceremony. I will be the dog wrangler, flower girl babysitter, ring bearer catcher, mother-of-the-bride shoulder to lean on, whatever you like. As I mentioned before, I LOVE what I do.
7. And lastly, I am a minister. And I LOVE being a minister.

 My next post will be about being a Metaphysical Minister and what means to me.  Stay tuned.

Vows Don't Have Be Hard

For a change of pace I thought I might give you all some insight on the vow writing process.  As more and more couples are deciding to write their own, they are realizing just how difficult it can be.  Sure, I know you love each other, but how do you say that in a paragraph or two?  Here are some ideas and examples.

1.  First of all and most importantly, don't wait until the last minute.  I know you think you got this, but trust me, you don't.  Vows are important.  You don't want them to be a last minute rush job.  You want them to be meaningful and even funny, if you choose to go that way.

2.  Say "I love you".  Seems like a no-brainer, but in your zeal to write the perfect words, this little phrase is often overlooked.

3.  Make a list of things you want to say, anecdotes about your life, how you met, things you love about your partner, things that annoy you (yes, it can be funny), and anything else that comes to mind.

4.  Write a draft, then another, then another, then another, until it is exactly what you want.  You'll know when you've nailed it.

5.  Then practise saying it out loud.  See if it rolls off the tongue easily.  Does it trip you up at all?  Then change the wording.  Once you think it's perfect, put it away somewhere safe - either on your phone or give it to your officiant.  Keep it away from your partner.

6.  The day before your big day, go over it one last time.  Do you still like it?  Good!  Job well done!  It will be great the next day at your wedding.

For anyone having trouble coming up with vows, I've compiled a selection that might ignite your creativity.  Today's examples are pulled from some favourite movies.  Enjoy.

From Lord of The Rings

I would rather spend one lifetime with you than spend all of the Ages of this world alone.

If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.

From Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas

If ever two people were more meant for each other, we'll just have to hunt them down, kill them, and bury them in the desert.

From Doctor Who

You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later they're as dull as a brick? Then there's other people, when you meet them you think, Not bad. They're OK. And then you get to know them and…and their face just sort of becomes them. Like their personality's written all over it. And they just turn into something so beautiful. You’re the most beautiful man I've ever met.

From Harry Potter

Let us step into the night and pursue that flighty temptress, adventure.

Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open.

We can’t choose our fate, but we can choose others. Be careful in knowing that.

You are protected, in short, by your ability to love!

We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.

Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also

What's comin' will come, and we'll meet it when it does.

From Star Wars

You are the Obi Wan for me.

Anakin

My Queen, may the Force be with us as we travel through the galaxy of life. I pledge to never turn to the Dark Side but stand forever in the illumination of our love. I vow to fight the Evil Emperor and I invite you take your place at my side as we rule the galaxy. Take my hand and stand with me for light and justice throughout our lives.

Padme

My Jedi, my love, I take your hand and accept your pledge. May the force be strong with us all the days of our lives. There is good in you, I sense it. Remain a Jedi and I will stand by you. I pledge to you my love and my companionship as long as I live.

 Han

Princess, I love you more than I love the Millennium Falcon. I'll give up a lifetime riding the galaxies in search of treasure with Chewie just to be with you. Together we can withstand anything, even the Death Star, Jabba the Hut and Darth Vader. Come with me and we will make this world and the others around it ours. I'll take part in any rebellion you want and pledge my life and love to you, Princess.

Leia

Han, no matter what world we crash land on, I know that you will take good care of us. No matter what happened in the past, I know you are brave, intelligent and I love you. Together we can stand against injustice wherever we find it and bring freedom to our world.

 Unknown

 I close my eyes I see my home, I see peace, I see tranquility, I see you.  I vow to be your peace, your tranquility, your home.

Of course I promise to love you, but I promise to buy the lottery tickets, order the takeout, shovel the snow, plant the tulips, open the wine, pop the corn and kiss you every night.  That’s what love is!

 

SPRING IS AROUND THE CORNER

Can you believe it?  It's been over a year since I wrote something here.  My sincere apologies.  I'm not the greatist at keeping things up, except my socks.  They never seem to fall down.  Anyway, I digress.  So, in honour of International Women's Day, I'd like to take a moment to honour all of the women in Ukraine who are taking care of their families, someone else's families, their country, and hoipefully, themselves.  Their bravery is a testament to their strength and will.

Here's an excerpt from an Irish Newspaper - The Independent.  

The Story of Ukraine's Women is a Story of Courage

If one were looking for symbols of true super-power, courage and strength today, you will find it not among the decorated army generals, but in the set faces of the mothers cradling their infants in the makeshift shelters of Ukraine’s cities.

With homes and hopes demolished by the “Strong man” of Europe, these heroic women are holding their families together, as the rest of the world looks on helplessly.

Their treatment is maybe a mortal insult to everything that International Women’s Day represents, but their spirit epitomises its essence. For there’s nothing more maddening for a despot, than to see defiance in a people supposedly deprived of real resistance.

Virginia Woolf wrote: “Women have served all these centuries as looking glasses possessing the magic and delicious power of reflecting the figure of man at twice its natural size.”

Each new day that sees Ukraine standing up to the extreme violence of Vladimir Putin’s onslaught, further diminishes his rapidly wilting stature.

Their dignity at freezing border stations, or trying to keep their toddlers entertained in subterranean railway stations, is a story of heroism. Their plight under such indiscriminate shelling has touched the heart of the world.